Silent Partner
From: JB
Date: Jan 16, 2005
Sometimes living with a silent partner leave toooo much time for thought development. Yesterday evening the thoughts that developed in me were very hurtful and unpleasant. I finally erupted about 11 p.m. Of course I regret it and I am remorseful, but if there is a great lack in our relationship, I can’t expect him to do anything about it if he doesn’t know, right? Well, he knows. We have had the same conversation at least once or twice a year for the past ten years anyway. I NEED CONVERASATION AND PARTICIPATION! Then again, he’s not out running around on me, doesn’t drink, thump on me, boss me, spend all our money and he willingly goes with me to all family functions and anywhere else (except the grocery store). He is clean and healthy. Jeeze, what have I to complain about!!!
From: MJS
Date: Jan 16, 2005
Do you ever hear men talk about anything other than politics, sports or business? Our grandmother told me: “Keep your women friends. You will need them.” I think she was referring to this very problem of male-female differing communication needs. Women multi-task and multi-communicate. Men are just focused and simple. That’s oversimplifying, of course. I too am learning to bring stuff up to my husband when it isn’t even clear to me yet, just intuitive little pushes that some emotional dishonesty is going on. It’s helping a lot. We’re still adjusting to retirement life.
When you have time, check out Sue Monk Kidd’s website. She has lots of great stuff. I would like to have that Book Club discussion of the Secret Life of Bees all over again. Also look at one called Tiferet, about a journal of spiritual writings from various faith orientations, including poetry, fiction and non-fiction. The sample writings are very interesting.
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Date: Jan 16, 2005
Sometimes living with a silent partner leave toooo much time for thought development. Yesterday evening the thoughts that developed in me were very hurtful and unpleasant. I finally erupted about 11 p.m. Of course I regret it and I am remorseful, but if there is a great lack in our relationship, I can’t expect him to do anything about it if he doesn’t know, right? Well, he knows. We have had the same conversation at least once or twice a year for the past ten years anyway. I NEED CONVERASATION AND PARTICIPATION! Then again, he’s not out running around on me, doesn’t drink, thump on me, boss me, spend all our money and he willingly goes with me to all family functions and anywhere else (except the grocery store). He is clean and healthy. Jeeze, what have I to complain about!!!
From: MJS
Date: Jan 16, 2005
Do you ever hear men talk about anything other than politics, sports or business? Our grandmother told me: “Keep your women friends. You will need them.” I think she was referring to this very problem of male-female differing communication needs. Women multi-task and multi-communicate. Men are just focused and simple. That’s oversimplifying, of course. I too am learning to bring stuff up to my husband when it isn’t even clear to me yet, just intuitive little pushes that some emotional dishonesty is going on. It’s helping a lot. We’re still adjusting to retirement life.
When you have time, check out Sue Monk Kidd’s website. She has lots of great stuff. I would like to have that Book Club discussion of the Secret Life of Bees all over again. Also look at one called Tiferet, about a journal of spiritual writings from various faith orientations, including poetry, fiction and non-fiction. The sample writings are very interesting.
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