Best and Worst Christmas Ever
Date: Dec. 31, 2004
From: KHM
To: MJS
So much has happened! I had the best and worst Christmas ever.
On the way home from our celebration I was telling my husband, “Wasn’t that the best Christmas ever?” No sooner were we in the door than one of my sons called to complain about the presents I gave to his wife and daughter. I thought I had given them what they wanted, but somehow it didn’t seem “fair” to him, that I was playing favorites! He wasn’t happy with any explanation. This whole thing kept me awake till the wee hours. Next day my other son called to tell me how this story was going round and getting bigger. I would like to write him a letter, explaining again, and adding something about how he ruined MY Christmas. He’s so ungrateful for all I have done. He’s being disrespectful and unloving. He still blames me for my divorce. I think his wife is at the bottom of this. I am so hurt! What do you make of this?
Now we are in Florida for three months, and already my husband feels bored. I don’t know if I can take this! This is not my idea of pleasant retirement life! I was hoping they would want to come and spend time with us here, but now I am not so sure about that. We love this weather, but this conflict is always in the back of my thoughts.
One good story though. On the drive down here we narrowly avoided a really bad accident. A car came across the meridian, flipped three times, and landed right in front of us! Not a scratch on our car!
Date: Jan. 1, 2005
From: MJS
To: KHM
First I am really happy that you survived the potential driving disaster. Those travel angels must have been on duty for you.
About the family situation, that’s a tough one. If you are feeling hurt, then revenge is the bottom line, so now you “owe” him whatever he wants. You did the best you could with what you had in the past. It must be one of his life tasks to learn responsibility for where he is now and gratitude for what he does have. The only way you can win this game is not to play. Do what makes you happy.
The Rose Parade was great! I actually watched it all this year, for the first time, I think. The Rose Bowl game was good too, undecided until the end. Then I had a steady stream of company to visit. I am very tired from being up with grandkids last night while their parents partied. At least I get to go to bed early tonight. Happy New Year!
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From: KHM
To: MJS
So much has happened! I had the best and worst Christmas ever.
On the way home from our celebration I was telling my husband, “Wasn’t that the best Christmas ever?” No sooner were we in the door than one of my sons called to complain about the presents I gave to his wife and daughter. I thought I had given them what they wanted, but somehow it didn’t seem “fair” to him, that I was playing favorites! He wasn’t happy with any explanation. This whole thing kept me awake till the wee hours. Next day my other son called to tell me how this story was going round and getting bigger. I would like to write him a letter, explaining again, and adding something about how he ruined MY Christmas. He’s so ungrateful for all I have done. He’s being disrespectful and unloving. He still blames me for my divorce. I think his wife is at the bottom of this. I am so hurt! What do you make of this?
Now we are in Florida for three months, and already my husband feels bored. I don’t know if I can take this! This is not my idea of pleasant retirement life! I was hoping they would want to come and spend time with us here, but now I am not so sure about that. We love this weather, but this conflict is always in the back of my thoughts.
One good story though. On the drive down here we narrowly avoided a really bad accident. A car came across the meridian, flipped three times, and landed right in front of us! Not a scratch on our car!
Date: Jan. 1, 2005
From: MJS
To: KHM
First I am really happy that you survived the potential driving disaster. Those travel angels must have been on duty for you.
About the family situation, that’s a tough one. If you are feeling hurt, then revenge is the bottom line, so now you “owe” him whatever he wants. You did the best you could with what you had in the past. It must be one of his life tasks to learn responsibility for where he is now and gratitude for what he does have. The only way you can win this game is not to play. Do what makes you happy.
The Rose Parade was great! I actually watched it all this year, for the first time, I think. The Rose Bowl game was good too, undecided until the end. Then I had a steady stream of company to visit. I am very tired from being up with grandkids last night while their parents partied. At least I get to go to bed early tonight. Happy New Year!
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